Thursday, December 17, 2009
Tiger Woods And Elin Nordegren ... D-I-V-O-R-C-E
ABC news is reporting that Tiger Wood's wife, Elin Nordegren, is seeking a divorce.
She's apparently shopping around for a divorce lawyer.
I had the feeling she was weighing the public humiliation Woods put her through versus the effect on their two kids and what her staying with him would convey to them, and I think she may have ultimately decided that living a lie simply wasn't possible.
The formal announcement will probably come after the holidays, after she's sorted out her options. She's reportedly headed back to Sweden with the kids for awhile, so the Woods family is probably not spending Christmas together.
Ironically, Woods was just named the Athlete of the Decade by The Associated Press, which really bothers me.I'm just old enough to remember when athletes were positive role models for kids and actually stood for something.
In Tiger Woods' case, it appears he's not even a role model for his own kids,let alone anyone else's.
It's a funny thing about that.
During my days in the music biz, I was a single gentleman and lived a somewhat promiscuous life, so I understand the temptations..and they must have been a hundred times as great for someone like Tiger Woods as for someone at my level.
But that's largely adolescent behavior, no matter how old you are or how successful you are, and sooner or later, you are faced with a decision to grow up and become a man.
And ultimately,that means making a commitment to one woman and if you are so blessed, to the family you create together. The true measure of a real man, I think, is to be able have someone love and desire you over time even when they've seen you at your best and most attractive and your worst and least glamorous and the early bloom of youth has faded a bit.
When you find someone like that, most of the other temptations fade away, because if you have any sense at all you realize what you have to lose.
Author/Psychologist Nancy Friday hit on the edges of this in a book she wrote on male sexual fantasies which I believe was subtitled 'the triumph of love over rage.'
In my opinion, compulsive and prolonged sexual promiscuity by either men or women is an underlying and very subtle indication of hostility and lack of respect towards the opposite sex, because it involves turning a human being into a commodity. At least that's how I see it.